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What does it mean to be "slave"?

Posted by Adverse_Camber on Thu 8 Oct 2009 to The_Slave_Forum

"Possession rather than obedience is the defining quality of slavery; obedience rather than possession is the defining quality of submission." (http://www.enslavement.org.uk/iefaq)

This quote crystallised for me last year what i had been trying to understand...that elusive difference between submission and slavery, and why i tend more toward slavery, so much so that it is immediately obvious to dominant types...

The distinctions i am about to make come from hours of reading and research; and from personal experience...i tend toward introspection and hyperanalysis!

In submission, i know i belong to my Master and feel this as an active submission to his will, a struggle between my internal wildness and imposed rules. In slavery, He owns me. i have no will, there is no struggle- i exist because i am owned.

In submission, i negotiate my limits, have them tested, re-negotiate as necessary. In slavery, i have no limits, my body is His and He will do as pleases Him with it.

In submission, i expect a certain level of input into what we do, how we share our time. In slavery, i have no input. Time becomes meaningless as i exist in His time and i wait calmly to spend it as He will.

In submission, if something hurts or i don't like it, i will make that clear, not expecting to get my own way, but hoping that i will. In slavery, it does not matter if it hurts or i don't like it- He will decide what He wants to use my body for and it pleases me to accept anything He desires.

In submission, i need my wants and needs to be met. In slavery, i have no wants or needs...i only exist to meet His wants and needs.

In submission, i have to actively fight my will to meet his.

In slavery, i am at peace.

3rd April 09, leashed_cougar

I wrote this 8 months ago...my perceptions of myself have changed dramatically since then. However, I hope that the thoughts, deeply felt at the time, may be of interest to some of you. Perhaps some discussion could arise too? That would be good! :-D

Take care and be well, Adverse_Camber x

"I know I could always be good to One who'll watch over me"

Reply by x_Thunder_x on Thu 8 Oct 2009

Adverse_Camber wrote:
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In submission, i have to actively fight my will to meet his.

In slavery, i am at peace.

3rd April 09, leashed_cougar

Adverse_Camber wrote:
I wrote this 8 months ago...my perceptions of myself have changed dramatically since then. However, I hope that the thoughts, deeply felt at the time, may be of interest to some of you. Perhaps some discussion could arise too? That would be good! :-D

Take care and be well, Adverse_Camber x

An excellent analysis and yes I've sensed , since you first wrote that ,there have been changes in how you view yourself. Whether you are now at peace only you can answer

Be well

x

ETA: Though I believe a slave has input and note would be taken of that - all decisions are finally those of the Owner.

This does NOT mean that a slave's spirit has to be broken - or a slave is a doormat

^Thunder^

The biggest liar in the world is They Say. ~Douglas Malloch

What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth. ~Jewish Proverb